Today Justin and I loaded up his car to drive to NJ for Christmas. This is the second time in our relationship that I have woke up Christmas morning with the Davises. Last year, I spent Christmas in NC then continued my tour of the East Coast, NJ with the Davises, NY with Shaderi then back to MD for New Years Eve.
But, on to the topic at hand, since October 17th the proposal, I've heard that "this will be the last time you do this" or "this is the last time you do that" because in less than a year's time my life will be different. I understand that next Christmas I will answer to Mrs. Davis, members in the MAR region will have two RAMAs with the last name Davis, and I will have a new role in life, wife. But will this name change and additional role truly color my perception and outlook on life experiences? I recognize that I wont be able to have slumber parties at my house whenever I want, I will have another person's thoughts, feelings and opinions to consider when making decisions. But, will this change my life in such a way that everything I do between now and July 25th be the last time I do something? Yes, it will be the last time I experience these things as a "single lady" a la Beyonce, yes it will be the last time I fill out forms with a hypenated last name, but will my ideals, thoughts and mentality change that dramatically?
I'll have to see? catch you next Christmas for a year in review.
I believe that it will change. Change is not something that you can keep from whether you are single or Married. Changes when you are married just seem "highlighted" because everyone is looking for it. You will have to prepare for two in every situation that you are in, but that will keep you guys as ONE. Your ideals thoughts and mentality may change and/or EVOLVE. Some may not understand until it is their turn, but hopefully those around you will love you and accept them.. Congrats again
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