In the past several months the news has been filled with traumatic events, as usual. However, in recent weeks the drama with Tiger Woods has been in the forefront of visual and print media. As a result, the concept of marriage has also been up for debate. From the pages of tweets to radio commentary, the masses have had plenty to say. During this week alone I've heard some really disturbing ideas and feelings about marriage and the notion of cheating.
While driving into my internship I heard a radio show personality share the thoughts of a listener to this effect: "men will cheat because they do not benefit from marriage". I was disgusted! This guy had the audacity to say that only women get anything out of marriage? for real dude?!? After I called him a punk and glared at the dashboard, I realized that his mentality might be an extreme slant on the current view of marriage. It seems that the concept of marriage, even more the concept of commitment is more of a dirty word than the actual "four-letter" words that have become a norm. In 2009 I have attended five weddings so far with another one on deck, I know that these couples have gone through their own set of issues, their ups and downs, etc. but they have been committed to their respective relationships.
Why is this such a hard and foreign concept?!? We can't commit in relationships, cellphone plans, even car leases?
In the same broadcast, another listener expressed that since Tiger Woods makes so much money he shouldn't have gotten married because the money gives him the chance to do anything. Again, disgusted! Another radio personality made a quality statement in response though, does his money give him the right to throw out morality! That statement was the main reason for the blog? is our lack of morality as a culture the reason why 51% of marriages end in divorce? And for a bit of inside knowledge, that percentage is the same in the Christian community and doesn't include the flippant marriages of Hollywood So, readers what is it that's causing this lack of follow through? We can only sit back and blame it on mommy and daddy for so long, when will we accept responsibility for our own morality, commitment to a greater quality of life with someone else, and setting the standards for our children. Will the generational curses end with us? Or continue to multiply the strength of the disabling dysfunction that is divorce?
Make Marriage work? it's worth it!
A correct view of marriage, let alone morality has NOT been taught nor is being taught to both the secular and christian community. We as a society "learn" our bent on marriage & morality through TV (reality TV), role models (famous people), schools with very postmodern philosophies (absence of God), and our personal sin-filled experiences. Those who make the effort to pursue the correct view of marriage and morality are like salmon trying to swim up against the current and gravity. It's possible, but it ain't easy.
ReplyDeleteBut I have the utmost confidence in God to keep your relationship with your husband loving, healthy, and prosperous. ^_^