Wednesday, July 14, 2010

I'm getting married. But you know what... I'm tired of waiting for the "big" day, I'm tired of talking about it, and I'm tired of folks asking me if I'm ready.

The days aren't dragging by just because I have so much to do with finishing up this last class for my summer session and mentally prepping what I can move out of my closet so Justin will have space for his clothes. My Matron of Honor would tell me to simply enjoy the moment, she's been telling me that since my Thursday Night dates with J (check the story at www.mywedding.com/diayleandjustin), but I can't seem to enjoy it because I'm so busy. I was talking to a sister the other day who is in the midst of planning her wedding about how ready I am just for the nitty-gritty of the marriage. I would have loved a destination wedding, white sand, Caribbean breeze and coco bread on the dinner menu. I understand that marriage will be hard work, I understand that blending two families will be difficult, but I'm ready for the practical application. I'm ready to learn new elements of Justin: the rhythm of his breathing as he sleeps, if he leaves his clothes on the bathroom floor, will he dust because he knows that I don't like to. And I'm sure we're both in for a learning curve, but I'm ready for that part. I'm ready to learn about myself, will I adjust quickly to having a for real roommate (yeah, yeah, yeah, Jamiel lived with me, but at times I only new he was there because food would go missing) or will I become frustrated because someone is taking up half my bed? Will I try and hide things that I do for fear that Justin will look at me funny... or will he just suck it up because he's my husband and I'm his wife?

I'm ready for the wedding day to be over, and ready for my marriage to begin!

2 comments:

  1. Well said, well said...LOL....We are taught to think about how great the "day" will be, but we never but much emphasis on considering the day (life) after (I am not talking about the night, although that is something to definitely look forward to....:-)... you were so on point in your description of the "nitty-gritty" of marriage...we all know and are forewarned about the challenges that come with marriage, but it is the things that you described that actually make up the marriage...Oh, and I totally understand about having a brother for a roommate...my food is always gone...LOL .... thanks for the transparency....

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  2. oh my dear child. I know you only have 10 days now, but my very strong advise is to enjoy enjoy enjoy. It is a life and time that you will NEVER know or feel again. We love you, we are so excited for the moment, but please baby girl wallow and savor your last few days:)

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